DIVORCE COACHING FOR MEN

HAVE SOMEONE IN YOUR CORNER. GET NEW RESULTS.

You are a creator and can absolutely  have any life that you choose. Find and create that marriage  with the spouse you always wanted to attract  and  have, enjoy meaningful deep relationships  with your kids, enjoy strong friend circles, have that job of your dreams and take back control of your finances. My story of freedom and love is a victory all can be inspired by - but most importantly, it leaves us with the trail and road-map to success in what otherwise could be a very difficult journey for others. 

No time wasted on how you got here, but we obsess on what it looks like from here to the other side where that extraordinary life sits waiting for you to seize. This is not counseling - so there is no looking back. You will hear a story that takes you from the front step of divorce to the finish line of an  incredible finished product.

In that victory, I developed a system, strategy, and playbook after having to pick up the pieces when my marriage of 24 years ended. Leaving me a divorced, single dad of 4 - one with special needs. I lived with a desire to find love and a new quality of life, all while willing to shoulder whatever came at me and go through what every pain to find freedom and love on the other side of the gap. 

 IS DIVORCE COACHING FOR ME?

Are you:​ 

  • painfully navigating through separation or divorce?

  • feeling under attack in all areas of your life?

  • juggling new expenses?

  • forced to perform at peak levels at work to finance the transition - all while you are personally drained and drowning?

  • overwhelmed by the tasks and transitions ahead of you?

  • feeling stuck or blocked from reaching your goals?

  • negotiating new family and social roles?

  • wondering how to be super dad on your own?

  • searching for your new single-man identity?

  • ready to go from breakup to breakthrough? 

 WHAT DO I GET?

  • Heal your hurt, let go of your anger & start moving forward

  • Identify what exactly YOU want in your next chapter

  • Create personal and/or professional action plans

  • Enhanced communication skills

  • Avoid compromise in your need/search for companionship

  • Work to overcome your fear of change

  • Processing the guilt 

  • Increase confidence knowing that you're moving in the right direction & making decisions to achieve the best outcome

  • Improved strategies to accomplish career, financial, and social goals

  • Boost your everyday mental attitude & emotional strength

  • Find your passion about life and work again

  • Define and work towards financial independence

  • Become the very best version of yourself in every area of your life

  • Improved co-parenting strategies, boundaries, cooperation with ex-spouse

  • Build out a friend network that enhances your quality of life

WE KNOW IT TOOK A LOT TO FIND YOURSELF ON THIS PAGE TODAY; DON'T STOP NOW. 

We encourage you to sign up for a free coaching session to experience how we help.

 The journey between where you are today and where you want to be can begin with this COMPLIMENTARY 30 MINUTE SESSION

READY TO DATE AGAIN? NOW WHAT? AND WHEN...
  • How to know if you're ready to date again

  • Develop a plan to be the best version of yourself. BE what you want to attract

  • Have complete & absolute clarity on your ideal mate

  • Pull someone in rather than pushing them away

  • Keeping good emotional boundaries while "getting back out there"

  • Are you dating to marry?

  • How to pick someone to be in that step-mother role

  • Navigating the dating waters and selecting the right online platform for you

  • Write a powerful profile that is both captivating & honest

  • Do's and Don'ts for your first date 

  • Learn how to show up and be present & communicate more effectively without "dumping"

GET ON THE PATH TO CLOSING YOUR GAP

We connect with our clients each week for one hour either in person or virtually. Clients leverage our coaching in two settings: one-on-one or in one of our workshop groups with like-minded peers who are facing the same road as you and are moving to their victory with team support. 

During my divorce and in the months that followed (when I was in the gap) the support options I had were few. I was hurting and feeling the loss of life as I knew it. I overwhelmed and quickly wore out my friend and family network, which isolated me even more. I reached out to that group for answers and advice while most of them were not qualified to really push me to my greatest potential as they weren't living their best life; nor had they even faced divorce or a life overhaul and rebuild. Why would I ask those people for advice? Would you ask your landscaper for advice on a car repair and expect to get a favorable result?! I looked for groups, but found most to be dating meetups and one church in my area offered a support group based on a workbook and a severely outdated series of videos.

I desperately needed the community at that time in my life and had to find it in pieces and parts - never really even found what I was looking for all at the right time. I made it my mission to develop a program that is effective & convenient (virtually) - allowing a newly single dad  (or anyone for that matter) to attend at their convenience and with no compromise on the results. While meeting locally would seem to have it's benefits, it restricts the group dynamic to those present in your community. Meeting virtually has allowed us to do one-on-one coaching regardless of your location and to draw in people from all across the globe to create the best group dynamics matching personality, goals, and chapters of life in our groups. At the end of the day, this is about getting results and lasting change; finding hope and healing while moving forward into the great things that life has for you! 

These aren't counseling sessions. We will offer support and a platform for you to openly express and work through your grieving the loss of your marriage or life as you had known it, but only while we hold you accountable to results as we work through your playbook to achieve the life that you desire after your tragedy.

 

We are unlike anything you have seen in the divorce support network .. we have literally shaken the foundations of the traditional approach to life transformation and rebuild.

FACE TO FACE SESSIONS

Meeting in person can sometimes offer advantages over virtual coaching, but is limited to those in the Naples, Florida area. We offer travel packages and do on-site coaching and onboarding for an additional fee.

VIDEOCONFERENCE SESSIONS

We use  state of the art video conferencing, making location not an issue. You'll be able to join from your safe, private, convenient place by computer or smart phone. All you need is an internet connection. 

TELEPHONE SESSIONS

Video conferencing is ideal for face-to-face connections and strategizing during our sessions, but we understand that life is busy. Sometimes it is necessary to receive support through a phone session.

INTERACTIVE

ON-THE-GO SUPPORT

Interactive support includes  unlimited email and text exchanges with your coach (as available), access to your group's private social platform for communicating and doing life with your crew throughout week, and an online resource center. 

Frequently asked questions

What does a Transformation Coach do?


A Transformation coach encourages, motivates and advises you on a range of professional and personal issues. Coaching is distinct from giving advice, consulting, counseling, mentoring or therapy. You would hire a coach to help you with specific professional projects, personal goals and transitions. A coach helps you achieve growth by analyzing your current situation, identifying existing and potential challenges and obstacles, and developing a custom blueprint of action designed to help you achieve specific outcomes. The Transformation Coach / client relationship is a partnership where both parties are in a pursuit together to:

  • ​Gain clarity and outline the client's vision
  • Encourage the client's self-discovery
  • Use the Transformation Coach's expertise to assist the client in developing and implementing of goals and initiatives
  • Nurture and evoke strategies and an actionable plan around the blueprint to best achieve the clien't goals - matching their personality & vision
  • Set processes for measurement of progress / successes
  • Offer accountability and help the client tap into their inner strength and uncover their passions within to see their blueprint come to life




Coaching Misconceptions: THIS IS NOT THERAPY


It is understandable that you may be wondering what the difference is between a life coach and a therapist….the answer is that the variation is great, they are very different. Coaching accepts your current reality and looks to improve your outcome moving forward while bringing to life all that lies dormant within you. Your life coach does not treat childhood issues, depression, anxiety, etc... Future vs. Past Therapy will help you uncover and heal ailments from your past. This is vital for being able to forgive and move past hurtful experiences. Our coaches generally don’t spend much time in the stories of your past. We are interested and care about how you got to where you are now - but even more important to us is taking where you are now, identifying where you want to go, and helping you get there to maximize your potential. A transformation coach will bring focus on looking and moving forward toward your future with momentum. While they may offer you their expertise, suggestions, strategies, new ideas or action steps, they are not advice-givers. Most believe that their fulfillment / passions are hiding - like they are somewhere in the world and need to be found. And only then will they be able to live the life of passion they dream about. We believe that a person's passion cannot be controlled by anyone or anything, rather, it dwells within each one of us. If you are looking to achieve greatness in your life, to create and see growth personally or professionally, passion is the ingredient that once unveiled and tapped into makes us unstoppable. It's about asking the right questions and uncovering what you already have inside to help you find your path, your truth, your life filled with passion and purpose.




Coaching Misconceptions: SOLUTION FOCUSED vs PROBLEM FOCUSED


A therapist tends to work with more focus on the past - a certain problem you are having and moving backward to find what got you there in the first place. It is analytical, but not action-oriented. A life coach, on the other hand, is going to be focused on your now - creating solutions and cultivating an atmosphere that will get you from where you are to where you want to be. If you want to identify and cultivate your gifts and skills to live your purpose and passion each and every day then hiring an ELEVATE Transformation Coach to help you arrive at your best would be a great step for you. While your coach may help you deal with problems that arise along the way, the focus of the sessions and your work together will be on finding new ways of action and thinking that will help you to achieve your goals. Elevate Transformation Coaching isn’t therapy in disguise; it is a service designed to help ambitious people achieve more success while navigating their way through the complex issues following loss.




Qualities of a Transformation Coach


Because your Transformation Coach is a catalyst for individuals and organizations to uncover their greatness they are sure to become a trusted friend - after all, they want and expect the best from you. They will offer accountability and challenge you to perform at your peak. They are Motivators: A Transformation Coach is a source of motivation and inspiration that gives you the push you need to reach your full potential; that catalyst for growth. You need motivation and encouragement from outside of yourself to make a significant change. Coaches are with you every step of the way, helping you find ways to stay on track and motivated to accomplish the goals you set - and so much more. They are Strategists: Effective strategizing is essential for a coach. One of the first things a coach will do is ask very specific questions about what you want to accomplish and help you to clearly identify and define your goals. Efficiency is key to creating and keeping momentum to create lasting change. One of the benefits to working with a coach is that they assist you in realizing your dreams more quickly and efficiently. Accountability Partners A life coach is someone who will keep you accountable for reaching your goals and making positive changes. They maintain contact and check in throughout the process to make sure you are progressing and keeping your forward momentum. Many people tend to rely on friends and family for this role - in most cases these people are not living the life you desire and offer no real bar of accountability for raising your standards. A life coach will not just let your dream fizzle without saying anything about it and just pat you on the back for trying. They will hold you accountable to what you said you will do. They motivate and keep you from making excuses and allowing limiting beliefs that hold you back.




Why would you work with a Transformation Coach?


People choose to hire life coaches either because they are ready to break free from what has been holding them back from living the life they want or they are in a season of transition and want to live with intention and roadmap their destiny. They want to improve, be the best version of themselves, see more growth, and do these things quickly and more efficienty - because our time is valuable and we only have one life to live! People in all walks of life work with coaches - our clients include: entrepreneurs, executives, those entering the retirement stage, managers, professionals, small business owners, SAHMoms, and those dreaming of a better life after loss, divorce, or in your marriage. These people all identify a gap between where they are and where they want to be. You and your coach will set challenging, but achievable, goals. Your coach will ensure that you are not settling for limited goals or being too negative as you assess your position by helping you calibrate your long and short-term goals against your core values. These aspects of the process all work together to allow the client to maximize his or her potential, and research shows that coaching is a far more effective combination than training alone. In fact, training alone can increase productivity by 22.4%, but when combined with weekly life coaching, productivity is boosted by 88%. There’s a reason that life coaching is the second-fastest growing profession in the world –because it works for people. Few people can honestly say that they are already performing at the top of their game each and every day. If you are ready to truly maximize your human potential, and take your life to the next level, then it’s time to seek out a life coach.




How does coaching work?


Life coaching typically works like this: video conference meeting one hour per week (sometimes two or more depending on action items and the client's priorities and timelines). It’s a structured format, although your coach will ultimately work with you to create a custom action plan and blueprint. Assessing your current position helps you and your coach measure your progress and identify current and potential obstacles for achieving your life full of passion and purpose. You and your coach will work to:

  • Define your vision and gain clarity in your purpose – Get clear and focused on the goals and objectives that will radically change your life in the next year.
  • Identify barriers and limiting beliefs that have been holding you back so that you can move past them.
  • Achieve your health & fitness goals – Have more energy to live the life of purpose you are destined for, with accountability from a coach that pushes you, you're more likely to stay committed for lasting results.
  • Ignite passion in your relationships – Remove sabotaging habits and beliefs and allow yourself true connections and discover the key to fulfillment in all relationships.
  • Become a more effective leader – Break through limitations and gain the skills to persuade, inspire and connect with others.
  • Prepare for change – Tap into courage, strength, passion and confidence to overcome any challenge or change that life throws at you. Growth requires change.
  • Grow your business – Commit in times of uncertainty, and step out of your comfort zone to drive your business to new horizons with remarkable profits.




How do I begin working with an Elevate Transformation Coach?


If you are ready to elevate passion in every area of your life and learn how to build meaningful relationships by being the very best version of you, schedule a complimentary 30-minute strategy session today. You will be contacted by one of our coaches and we'll talk to you about the next steps in defining your vision, goal setting, and making an actionable blueprint that will challenge you and allow you to achieve extraordinary results.




Coaching Misconceptions: IT IS FOR PEOPLE WHO CAN'T SUCCEED ON THEIR OWN


“Coaching is only for people who have problems or who can’t succeed on their own.” Let’s take an objective look at all of the top performers and athletes in this world and realize one commonality: they all have a coach. And they place great value on the coach and the importance of their role in their life. Coaching is for anyone who wants to improve their performance, take massive action, and experience real results and growth in all areas of their life. The truth is that even the most skilled, successful people can benefit from coaching. A Transformation Coach is professionally trained to help you maximize your full potential and reach your desired results. Coaching focuses on helping another person learn in ways that allow him / her to keep growing. It is based on asking rather than telling, on provoking thought rather than giving directions, and on holding a person accountable for his or her goals. Broadly speaking, the purpose is to increase effectiveness, broaden thinking, identify strengths and development needs, and set and achieve challenging goals. While coaches do need to have great listening skills, delivering high-quality coaching is far more than just listening and giving advice. It demands that the coach be able to draw on a deep base of knowledge, experience and training to craft unique solutions for each scenario and work with the client to implement them. Coaches are objective and will offer unbiased opinions about how to move toward accomplishing your goals and most importantly implement and deploy the tools used for accountability to ensure the lasting change and meaningful long term results.